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Thursday, February 28, 2008


Jump The Snark

When I started reading blogs four years ago, it didn't take me long to figure out that snarkiness seemed to rule the Internet. Especially on many of the popular parenting blogs.

I used to be a regular reader of the snarky dad blogs, but after awhile I found all of that derogatory sarcasm and biting irony to be depressing. It made me cynical as well. I'm generally a cheerful and optimistic person. I want to see and hope for the best in others. Snark is the antithesis of how I want to view the world around me. You might say I live in a fantasy world where life is perpetually shiny and perky, but that's my preference. I need to focus on the good things in life. It keeps me sane. And it keeps my kids happy and healthy.

Mostly, I prefer to read and comment on the daddy blogs that do not spend all their time making ironic jokes about parenthood. I do enjoy a fine bit of well written satire, but not all. the. damn. time. Oh, and there is a huge difference between satirical humor and situational humor. Parents who want to be funny on their blogs should focus on the latter. I'd much rather laugh about something than laugh at something.

To you daddy bloggers who are just trying to understand the complexities of parenting and make yourself better fathers, I want you to know how much I appreciate your writing. I love reading your thoughts and advice, and I hope I sometimes pass along some similar bits of helpful knowledge as we make this amazing journey called fatherhood.


Blogger COD said...

Great, so now all us "daddy bloggers" (I hate that term, BTW) are wondering which category we are in here :)

12:42 PM  
Blogger Jeff said...

I know what you're saying. Too much of anything (especially sarcasm) can get old after awhile.

I think people eventually end up shaping their blogrolls to reflect the bloggers they most closely identify with, but it takes awhile.

1:30 PM  
Anonymous Bad Dad said...

Good point, Phil. When I committed to blogging and podcasting about parenting, I decided to take the positive approach. I don't want to moan and groan. Instead I "try" to put out useful information and hope that I manage to make a positive impression on someone.

2:56 PM  
Blogger Phil said...

COD, you're one of the good ones. No, the blogs I stopped reading are the ones where every single post is like a Dennis Miller monologue. I look at them from time to time, but the constant sarcasm grates on me after awhile. I've noticed they don't like me much either. Oh well.

By the way, I read 151 blogs. All but a handful are mom and dad blogs. Mostly dads, actually. They're all different, but great, in my eyes. My favorites are the ones who discuss a wide variety of topics, not just parenting, but also family and education related.

4:21 PM  
Blogger Jared said...

Well said!

5:46 PM  
Blogger brettdl said...

I only read two dad blogs nowadays, and you're one of them.

10:35 AM  
Blogger Melany aka Supermom said...

Mmmm clearly I'm not a DADDY blogger lol but I do think it's important to keep a balance (as with everything in life)

5:36 AM  
Blogger Neonalune said...

Interesting...I just deleted a VERY POPULAR mommy blog from my reading list because I was tired of how snarky she was ALL THE TIME. I too appreciate a little bit here and there, but after a while it just brings me down. I now prefer to read blogs like the Nienie dialogues or this one, of course!

8:57 AM  
Blogger Darren said...

Nice post. I stopped reading a couple too--I go back occasionally, but not every time I'm reading blogs.

12:50 PM  
Blogger Whit said...

Hey, I thought you were complementing me when you said I was snarky. Come back, Phil!

4:14 PM  
Blogger Whit said...

um, I can't spell I went to public schools

5:27 PM  
Anonymous Jennifer Margulis said...

Thanks for this post. I find the snarkiness and the nastiness of the internet to be really upsetting sometimes. I had 80 mostly irate Internet comments on one of my recent columns for a local paper and it made me wonder why people are carrying around so many bad feelings and so much anger. I guess that goes WAY BEYOND snark, but the vehement criticism of the internet can sometimes be really disturbing...

8:13 PM  
Blogger KC said...

Gee, I'm not at all sure there's any comedy on my blog at all.

7:21 AM  
Blogger Rachel said...

What a great post!

12:04 PM  

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