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Saturday, September 10, 2005


Fallen Angel

My daughter recently started her "terrible two's"... Problem is, she's 4 years old.

We're kind of wondering what happened to our cheerful little angel. She's become this moody, scowling, foot-stomping, tantrum-throwing devil child. Not all the time, thank goodness. But a couple of times a day is enough.

I have my suspicions as to why she's doing this. It started about a month ago when we first started packing up our belongings to move from our rental house of the past two years to a home of our own. Things have always been a bit tight and cluttered because of the lack of storage space, but for the past month it's been something close to chaos. It's all piles of stuff, waiting to be sorted and put into boxes, and I know it's been frustrating for both kids to have things get put away where they can't be easily reached.

I'm not so sure my daughter fully understands everything that's going on. When I ask her what toys she wants to put in boxes, she bursts into tears thinking she'll never see the toy again. When I remind her that she'll have the toy again in X number of days, she says, "But I might want to play with it before then!" So, we've packed up most everything except toys, books, dolls and puzzles. Our house truly looks like a daycare right now.

Soon we'll know for sure if the chaos of our current situation is what has caused my daughter to turn to the dark side. We close on the new house next week and should be moving in over the weekend. I hope that once she sees a house free from boxes and clutter she'll calm down. There's something to be said for living in neat and organized surroundings. It can certainly have a positive effect on one's outlook on life. I'm looking forward to having a little elbow room and knowing where everything is in my house.

But mostly I'm looking forward to getting my little angel back.


Blogger landismom said...

I know how you feel--my daugter was way worse as a four-year-old than she was at age two. The preschooler brain is a complicated place, and I'm sure you're right that her feeling of dislocation isn't helping. Hope it gets better soon.

6:44 AM  
Anonymous brettdl said...

My son's new preschool teacher was just telling us how much toddlers love structure. I know it is true for my son.

How about trying to start a standard routine until after you move? For example, do the same things for the same amount of time each day to create the feeling of stability. Breakfast ... play for 1 hour ... clean together ... eat lunch ... pack together for moving, etc.

I've also found that the more I involve Seth in anything results in better outcomes. Seth took to his slide bed because he helped build it.

Maybe you can get your daughter involved in the whole moving process? Ask her to pack her toys for her new room? Have her label the boxes with her favorite stickers so she can find them? Or color the boxes with markers or crayons? You get the idea.

Anyway, those are just some thoughts.

7:29 AM  
Blogger Kristen said...

She'll most likely be feeling a lot better once you're finally moved into your new home. We moved here almost a year ago and it was tough on my son, even though he was just two. He was scared by everything until about a month or so after we moved in and then back to his old (young) self. I think it's harder for children who are a little older, like your daughter, because they have a better understanding of what's going on and the whole thing has a lot more emotion mixed up in it. Don't worry, your angel will be back before you know it!

10:36 AM  
Blogger Clare's Dad said...

Good luck with the move. We moved into a new house about 1 1/2 years ago and almost have every box unpacked and things put away...we're not living in chaos...there are just things we haven't seen for 18 months.

7:18 PM  
Anonymous DPR said...

Seems to me you've hit the correct prognosis. You'll come through it, though the sight of those toys & books slowly expanding to the far corners of your soon-to-be-vacated abode must be rather upsetting for you too!

11:24 AM  

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