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Friday, September 23, 2005


Blue Meanies

I was reading this great new blog called KittyBean and her post about mean kids, and it reminded me of two incidents from the past month.

We were at the park a few weeks ago and this 5-year-old girl, whom we've never seen before, comes up to my 4-year-old daughter and says, "Your parents don't love you."

My daughter dutifully marched right up to me and reported this. I couldn't believe it! Where in the world would a girl that age learn to say something like that, and why say it to a stranger? Can you tell I am no student of child psychology?

Last week, at school, my son had a thermos full of chicken rice soup, which he really likes. A kid across the table looked at it and said, "Your lunch looks like baby food." Now my son only wants sandwiches.

I don't understand why children do and say mean things. Shouldn't they be all simple and innocent? Here I am teaching my kids respect, integrity, and good manners, and they run up against other kids who are learning just the opposite.

Makes me want to take my family and go live on a mountain in the middle of nowhere.


Anonymous Theresa said...

You are not alone there. I think kids emulate their parents, so if they hear such rude, mean things at home, that's what they dish out to others.

It's the apple not falling far from the tree - ever try to talk to the parent of a bully?

4:46 AM  
Blogger Jeff said...

I don't get it either. Some people are so far off the page, they're totally out of the book.
You'd think most if not everyone would want to teach their child basic manners and politeness.

(I thought you were already on a mountain in the middle of nowhere)

4:57 AM  
Anonymous brettdl said...

You know, I have co-workers who ask if my smoothies, which I freeze in mason jars, are baby food, too. As Theresa says, kids learn from their parents.

It just goes to show you, no matter where you go, you can't hide from creeps. They're in all walks of society.

6:34 AM  
Anonymous chip said...

not only do kids learn from their parents, but they react to how they are treated. If a kid is constantly put down at home, he/she repeats that pattern of behavior at school. I always have told my kids that when kids are mean, hurtful, disparaging, it's not about them (my kids), it's about the bully, and that the bully feels really bad about himself and that's why he's doing it. I think it's so important for kids who are the targets to learn that such behavior doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them, but rather that the bully is having some kind of issues that lead to this behavior, from insecurity or whatever. You kind of have to feel sorry for those bullies and mean kids, because they're doing those things because they are themselves unhappy or miserable and having serious issues...

11:09 AM  
Blogger Kevin said...

While the first one was just darn rude, I don't think the "baby food" comment was necessarily mean. It could have just been an association that fired off in the kids brain when he/she saw the soup.

11:08 AM  
Blogger Chicka said...

Kids are brutally honest and call them like they see them. It's not always conducive to being polite to others.

Depends on the age, but for the most part my kids figured out how to shrug it off. But then, my kids have my sense of humor at a very young age and people tend to think they're odd. LOL!

4:17 PM  
Blogger Word Tosser said...

Sure makes home schooling more appealing, doesn't it...

But Chip is on the right track...
you just teach your kids that you have to feel bad for people like that, who are rude.

8:57 PM  

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