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Friday, June 17, 2005


Father's Day Thanks

On the occasion of Father's Day, I'd like to just say a few words of thanks to my own father...

Thanks for never playing catch with me so I would realize how healthy it is to be active with my kids. Whether it's throwing a ball around the yard or tossing a frisbee back and forth, children long to play with their dads and develop the physical skills needed to succeed in sports.

Thanks for never sitting down and having a conversation with me so I would know how depressing it is to not have a father to discuss things that young boys need to talk about. Communicating with my children goes hand in hand with loving them. They know that they can ask me about anything and I will take the time to talk with them, not at them, no matter how busy I think I might be.

Thanks for not being interested in my friends, hobbies, school, and future dreams so I would learn to never be a clueless dad who has no idea what kinds of people my kids are becoming. I have to put aside many of my own interests to be involved with theirs. It's not always fun to listen to endless Wiggles songs or to watch a Blue's Clues video for the tenth time, but being interested in their world lets my kids know I care about them and what they think.

Thanks for spending my college money on a trip to Europe with your girlfriend so I could learn how important it is to start college savings accounts for each of my children. When they first entered this world I promised to help them go as far they desired with their education.

Thanks for cheating on my mom so that I could witness firsthand the emotional devastation that an extramarital affair can inflict upon both a spouse and a family. I learned how important it is to remain faithful and strong, and to pass these qualities on to my kids. A man who loves his kids will love the woman who created them.

Thanks for losing touch over the years so I would make a mental note to, in the future, never let a week go by without letting my grown-up children know I love them and that I am still here for them no matter what.

Finally, thanks for being such a good dad to your new family so that I would realize you did, in fact, have it in you to be a loving and attentive father. Just not to me. Which means that everyone makes choices in life, and that I can overcome your poor example of fatherhood to become something admirable to my own children. If I do nothing more in life than be my kids' dad, I will be able to call myself a true success.

Happy Father's Day to all the good dads out there! You know who you are.


Blogger Darth Daddy said...

Holy shit --Ive only skimmed the first line of each paragraph (I WILL read the entire entry), and already I can sense a man after my own heart. My biofather was a drunk and a wife beater. Mom left him befre I was even a year old.

Think I may create an ode to him on my blog, in the F.U. fashion of yours.


ps. Happy Fathers Day, in case I dont get back here by Sunday!!

9:32 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

I hope your Dad reads your blog and who knows, maybe down the road he can express just a wee bit of remorse.

And to say that good can come out of bad is so cliche, but clearly in the case of your parenting it has.

12:52 PM  
Blogger green libertarian said...

Damn, Phil, some chilling stuff there.

9:04 PM  

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